Happy 1st Year Anniversary! Things you never knew about my Long Distance Relationship
Okay, if ya think it isn’t another sappy love story you’re sitting down to, then be forewarned. Because it probably is. And make it with double doses of syrupy sweet musings.
I know I haven’t exactly been penning down my personal life, depicting it with pictures and emotional thoughts very much this year. Reason not being my unwillingness to share – but simply because apparently I seem to have detoured to other priorities in my writings, which are other blog entries scheduled for publishing.
Then again, how much of a public blog do I want this to be?
Another dry, commercialized platform?
I wouldn’t dream of it.
But gone are the days which I would return home and wank my thoughts out or blog personal pictures/stories from the grey matter every few hours. Today, 4 years down the road in blogging… I now bring you public interest content, photography and event coverages.
Which can be a tad exhausting for me, keeping to deadlines of my fast and furious activities. One of my New Year Resolutions is to make this blog entirely more me. Yup, you still get the same post-event stories and piccies but also once again, bits and pieces of my personal life of love, friendship and family. Hey, it’s variety! *winks*
Many a time, the boyfie casually questions me in earnest, as to why I don’t blog about our relationship, our dates or our holidays together and other special moments.
Call me paranoid or secretive but I shudder at the mere thought of having another publicly broadcasted relationship story only to have it under surveillance by certain unorthodox people poking into our lives.
Leave us alone. We bite.
I savage.
Which I have done, in the past with the ex-boyfriend only to close the chapter of a 4 year relationship. (Don’t ask) It’s just funny how people can publish their intimate moments and dramatically proclaim their love to one another for the World Wide Web to see… and when it ends, all is tragically silent. And not to mention, awkward.
I guess this was my lesson. Or rather, a qualm to ponder upon and holding me back before I see myself in a repeating cycle of this nasty vile taste called life. I was just afraid the past would come and bite me once again, leaving me to nothing but disintegrated shreds of remorse and buckets of tears. I was that paranoid child snared by the past.
But now, a fresh new start of more than 1 year down the road, you, misturr, have proven me wrong.
You are indeed one of the most patient, open minded and tolerant person with lots of empathy, warmth and tender loving care that I’ve ever known. Cajoling me and subsiding my bawls whenever I get lonesome and often, putting up with my misfit of a much dreaded long distance relationship (LDR)
During my PMS-sy days, I always question myself as to why I even bother putting so much effort holding on to what might seem to be a virtual relationship and living a life counting the days to the next time we see each other again. Really. It’s tiring.
But again, you would never give up on me neither wanting me to ever give up.
What’s the 1st few years of an LDR compared to eternity of a lifetime relationship after?
Often I get inspired by my other friends who are, themselves, in an LDR too, one for 2 years and another for 5 years. Sure, predicaments will come and go, but one must never forget the pulsating reason why you both embarked on this journey of test and time in the first place.
As corny as it may sound, the reason is because you have found the right person.
To share a life with and for certain times of the year, having a good challenger to beat you flat or let you rule at hardcore drinks. Ahh yes.
Sure, we bicker at times but we all should never forget that there is always an option to agree to disagree. Differences come and go but then again, it’s what makes every individual so one of a kind.
But like everybody says, making up after a fight is always the sweetest. I bet every couple can attest to that. Guaranteed!
It’s the little things that keeps us freshly and crazily in love everyday, certainly takes two hands to clap. Not one side, but two. The both of you.
If one side only wants to make it happen
how to finish this drink ah?
Surprises, love notes, gifts, heart to heart moments, getaway trips together, random bursts of sweet talk and spending time with each other on the phone till we fall asleep. Thank technology for MSN, e-mails, SMS, calls and skype.
And ultimately, trust and optimism.
For something which we thought would only be a December fling, blossomed into something worth fighting for and looking forward to, each fleeting day.
But now, a year has passed; marking the 1st milestone of our official dating history. I can never forget how you held my hand in yours with shiny hopeful eyes, after last New Year’s fireworks display, when you first asked me to be your girlfriend,
of which I answered in the affirmative (duh!). And here we are today!
365 days of being loyally committed to an LDR. *beams* I must say I’m proud of us! There was never a day which we never spoke or told each other how much we loved each other. It’s quite fun to always sneakily plan surprises for each other to unfold when we meet again.
Athough being physically apart (unlike other non-LDR couples) from you can be painful at times, I’m thankful how it made us grow as one, not taking each other for granted and getting to know each other better and better as time passes.
Thank you Josh dearest, for being the best of me.
My only wish though – I just can’t wait for the day we can finally lift this LDR into having become at least, in the same vicinity. And there, another love story begins!
Happy 1st Anniversary lurve!
… and more to come!
Okay since I’m wide awake at 4.29am, Imma add in a nicely photoshopped note *biggrin* And ahem, I don’t know why you magically did not see the draft of this post when you logged on my blog’s dashboard. Or did you? O_O
Okai now I can sleep before tomorrow’s trip. Naites youu!
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O_O THIS IS SUCH AN UNEXPECTED SURPRISE!!! Love you much hon.
Wheeeee, happy first anniversary and of course lots more to come. ^_^
Getting to know you took me by surprise. Click on so well that we became like friends who have known for years. Of course, gradually fall for you as times goes by. ^__^
Meeting you is the bset part of my life! Love you much sweetie. ^___^
Ducclebears
hahaah surprise meh? I thought I ruined this surprise by asking u to "go see my blog". ahahahaha
luff yew twoo doinks. <3
awwww. so sweet!
happy 1st anniversary to you both!
u should be a writer neh~
Jacque
josh says hi hehe
heeeee. thanks so much babe!
Schmick
I am
heh thanks
such sugar pies!
Congratulations, Both of you.
It's been a journey. And cheez & I
wish you many more amazing beatuiful years ahead!
LDR's ain't easy. But , totally freaking worth it. You guys are not alone in this ok? (: Love you both.
Love,
Ven & Cheez
I'm glad you are happy Jess
COngratulations for the 1st anniversary.. and Happy New Year..
See you in Monash!
wow! so sweet! Happy first anniversary you two! and like you said, there's more to come. =)
Happy New Year too!
wahhh.. so sweet…
the plain water im drinking now suddenly like sugar water.. haha..
it's nice to keep things personal at times, not to expose it to the World Wide Web too much.. some things are best left in the real world than on the Internet..
happy 1 year anniversary.. this is a really cool + meaningful + thoughtful + inspiring entry of a LDRelationship!
all the best to you and josh.. yeah, may there's more to come for both of you =)
cheers! happy new year 2010!
kenwooi.com
awww…. so sweet! lovey dovey. happy 1st anniversary to both of you!
looking forward for your 2nd and more anniversary post. ^.^
tis is 1 of yr best n i'm hapi 4 u n yr bter 1/2, hup u guys wil hv more hapier anivsries yet 2 come. meanwhile,i wil find u d best gift evr in nvrland 2 cmmerate yr special day, hv an njyable annimoon on d eagle island n mr JOSH, u bter take gud care of jess 4 bter or 4 worse K!
Janice
aww ^_^ thanks babe!
Cuddlefish
and we always have each other to rely on for support cos we're in it together! hehe love u both too dearies
Irrelevancy
Happy Nu Years too! Yup, Monash awaits!
Thanks for the kind words
Kenwooi
hahahah. and yup, totally agree with u abt keeping certain things personal. the whole world wont hv the interest in your privacy sumtimes hehe. Thanks so much for the encouragement! 
Happy nu years!
u teasing me isit
Emeryn
and whoaaaa long long 365 days more to go wor to look forward! hahaahaha 
hahahha. thanks much babe!
Peterpan
I hope so too. As much as we want to make this work, we will try our very best to do so. Yup, replying u frm Langkawi now! heeee
hehe yeah
happy anniv! ldr aint easy but its worth it if u both know u r made 4 each other. there r ups n downs along the road.. all the best for another bright new year. Cheers!
Wow! This is really one of the best posts I've read recently. Jess, this is so touching and I can relate to this, as I had 2 LDRs.
I wish you guys all the best for the next year and really happy that your Josh is such a great boyfriend. You need to keep him, you'll hardly find a better one
Really loved this post and will tweet it immediately
Malaryx
thanks fo the wishes!! will try to breeze thru the ups n downs!
MKL
*hugs* yeah it aint easy.. AT ALL! but if two wants it to happen, then the race is long, tiresome but worth all the effort. thanks for being so encouraging nin 
soso much!
WOW U TOO?
awww u 2 very sweet la.. and ldr, i'm impressed *claps hand* happy anniversary to the 2 of u.. =)
thanks babe
and nolah, nth to be impressed about. it's still very much in progress! haha, we're still trying. hopefully it works out 
Hello! Writing from Korea! See i so good.. even in holiday also read ur blog!
and awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww so sweeeet! I totally agree with u in everything u wrote in this post except "airport is ur bestfriend" coz not everyone in a LDR can afford to fly n see each other like u so often 
but yo, u have been blogging for FOUR year already?! O__O wow!! respect!
HaPpY 1st AnNiVeRsArY dear!!!
I'm soo happy that u r happy with Josh Soo (pun intended… lol)
As you grow older…. errr, i mean mature(r), u will think more on what's matter most & i'm glad that u r putting priority number 1 to yourself & the ppl(s) that u cherished the most…
*cissss… i sounded like a nenek d*
awwwww can I melt?!?! haha Josh you'd better appreciate this man, the girl's a gem and i think you know it more than me, so if anything happens you'll know who's coming to knock your door down! LOL HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!
peterpan – Yes Sir! Mr Josh hereby telling the whole world(actually whoever reading this) that I will take care of Jess! ^_^
Christock – Dun worry, I guarantee u wun have a chance to knock my door down. XP
Last but not least, thanks to everyone else that wishes us a happy anniversary! ^_^
wenpink
but no biggie lah, got ppl longer. hee
hehhe awesome wutcha doing there? ur sucha lucky biatch hehe. thanks so much babes and hehe yeah 4 years liao
Diese
ahhaaha u sooooo bad lolol. and yup, will take ur advise to heart! hugssss nenek
Spinzer
hehe. wahh so taikor ahh youuu? muahahahahh yayy!
hehe melt with firepower tocky
Josh
so u see, if u've been bad, not only santa wont give u ur presents but they wll come and haul ur arse
This post is sweet, a state of mind for people who are in LDR. which I am going in to. Thanks for pointing it all out. I have confidence in it again
Im very very glad u liked it and take inspiration from it. Remember, distance is only a temporary physical barricade. Take it like a test of time. if the both of u can handle that test in the early stages, the walk together down the road in the later stages of life will be a breeze. My love n blessings to u and ur partner!
wow! LDR. i dun think its my thing but im glad tat it worked out for you. =)
ROAR Tomorrow I'm leaving SG, after reading this I just feel like staying which means WHOOPS =X
Happy Anniversary ^_^
lovely couple
3z5ySl Stands back from the keyboard in amazement! Thanks!
one year is child's play
Elaine
and thanks gurl!
hehe believe me or not it was NEVER my thing too
BlueRen
awwww thankies
Ariff
haha lemme see u do better smart alec
congrats!! You guys are one of the few couples who have made it..oh well..i've never made it through
..but nvm.life goes on and on…thank's for the suggestions and advice up there..
thankssss
hey, no harm getting up and trying again. What didnt kill u only makes u stronger. And josh and I still have a long journey ahead actually, will leave it up to fate! 
yea..really thanx for the inspiration
..i'm always positive..always look things at the brighter side..yeaa!
happy aniversary!
ooh interesting post… we get to see a different side in u.. the sweet side..
AWWWW..
I know how hard LDR is.. cos I m also in one.. it's hard but it's not impossible.
Happy 1st Anniversary to u both!! Hoep you have many more to come…
of travels
aim for the moon, and if u fail, u'll still end up amongst the stars
Joel
many thanks!
goingkookies
eeehh. *blush* yeah i know, hardly write these kinda posts anymore. but will do. lol.thanks! wow ur in an LDR too? I sincerely wish u all the best n all my love n blessings to u and ur better half! We can do it!
No worry lah. Now, everyone can fly.
ahahahah air asia tagline lol!
What a beautiful posting lil girl! I loved it! And its so nice to meet yer man properly. Tell him I approve! You seem so happy together … we are all so very happy for you Jessie!!!
All our love
the Bernard Bunch
hieee mommy
sorry for replying so late! i guess i must’ve missed your comment hehe.
thankew so much for the support. yes we are happy together
and i hope this lasts hehe.
love you, abi and the rest of the bernard bunch! <3 <3 *kisses*
Hey same here same here. We share something similar. LDR xD It’s dreadful sometimes but worth it :p
Hey
I cried reading this post.
My boyf broke up with me cos of this and other misunderstandings, but I hope I can prove him wrong that LDR does work, if you have trust and optimism, amongst other things.
I am paranoid myself, he trusted me fully. But I did not, although I know he is loyal.
So yea, wish me the best!
awwwwww. really? poor thing. *hugs*
yeah i know how it feels like breakin’ up. and trust me, it’s not easy to do AT ALL. i rlly hope ur getting over it or at least moving on by now?
yes, prove him wrong if u must. have faith, really. If it’s worth fighting for, then fight hard!
all the best babe
Man, you have had 365 days of LDR and you are making such a big fuss over the matter? And how far apart are you guys anyway? Love is not all about camwhoring and putting lovey-dovey pics for the world to see. It is actually that lil’ secret thought in your mind, private to you and you alone, which carves a smile on your face as you think of his/her silly lil’ antics. I so like to see if you guys are still together… 3 years from now. All the best then- here’s some tissues!
haha dude, can’t blame me for making a “big fuss”. this is my 1st time in an LDR and hey, it takes time to get adjusted to it. Why, have u been in an utterly long LDR yourself? I’m impressed.
though i agree that love isn’t about “camwhoring and putting lovey-dovey pics for the world to see”, I would like to do it anyway becos being a blogger, i blog about EVERYTHING. hehe and it’s nice to have a slice of your personal life at times
and yes, we accept your challenge with pride
come back after 3 years okie? cheers!
(in the meantime, i might need your tissues. haha!)
Hey FunnyMan, judging from the way you talk I assume you been in a LDR for much longer than us. If you are not, then what makes you think that even being in a LDR is easy?
Oh, do you mind giving us your real name and email address also? Cos judging from your comment I guess we need to get back to you 3 years later to tell you if we are still together. Else come back here again 3 years later if you still remember this. ^_^
I have an old-fashioned engagement ring, art deco style, cushion cut. Extremely thin pave band with matching thin pave band.